Sam’s Got a Girlfriend, nana nana na na.
Sooooo…we’ve lived here nearly 9 months and I’ve made precisely one friend. Sure, I have acquaintances and other moms I talk to at playgroups and stuff, but as far as someone I feel I have a mutual connection with I’ve just got the one. It may sound like I’m complaining, but I actually feel I’m quite lucky for meeting her and developing our relationship. I think it’s very difficult to find someone you really understand in the midst of being a stay at home mom, especially when you throw a move to a new city into the mix. At playgroups and parks and museums and such you really are only starting with the common thread of having a kid, not like meeting people at work or an activity where from the start you have a common interest. It’s hard, especially considering the fact that you have to make your connections while wrangling your toddler and trying to mediate fights over sippy cups - can you really have a decent conversation with a stranger while your kid is dumping cheerios on someone else’s floor or stealing a baby’s rattle?
Well, somehow I did. And the best part: she’s got a daughter exactly Sam’s age. I know. Lucky. We spend at least one morning a week together, wrangling our kids and successfully having meaningful conversation over the decibal levels of our screaming children. It rocks. Sam is quite passive around this girl. I think he is amused by watching her. When she says, “Bam sit here,” he does so and then watches to see if she is pleased. She is. “Bam push,” and he pushes her around in the wagon, both smiling. He sits and lets her listen to his heart with her stethoscope and when she wants a toy that he has he very quietly walks up and hands it to her. Somehow their personalities just work well together.
Today was the day we decided to get the Hubbies together too, so we headed over there for brunch. A real brunch. We ate quiche and the other adults had mimosas. I was in charge of the “something sweet” and we all sat around the table, kids strapped into boosters, and chatted while trying desperately to get our children to eat something other than muffins, which works in its weird way since our kids are the same age and what is normal for us is also normal for them. There’s no fear of Sam making a mess or being too loud, because their daughter is doing the exact same stuff (she’s actually much, much louder).
Afterward we all headed for the playroom and the bedroom for pony rides and bed jumping as we regaled each other with tales of parenting and memories of former lives. We were like real adults again as we positioned ourselves around the bed to create a buffer that would stop one of the tots from flying off the bed as they flung themselves around.
And to top the morning off, I give you this little gem:
Labels: Mommy friends
Oh, it’s such a blessing to have found such a friend. And Sam and his girl are just too cute.
Comment by Goslyn — February 11, 2007 @ 9:15 pm
THAT is so cute!! I love it!
Glad you had a good day as well. It’s harder when you’re older or have a family, because you don’t want to give up the good quality time with your family but you still need a friend or two.
Comment by sari — February 11, 2007 @ 9:32 pm
Oh my gosh those two are too sweet, and very well dressed, I must say. I just found out today that my kindergartener has a girlfriend. Named Jamie! When did this happen?!?!
Comment by Adventures In Babywearing — February 11, 2007 @ 9:44 pm
Adult friends. Must. Have.
OOoop! that picture is sooo cute!
Comment by bon — February 11, 2007 @ 10:29 pm
That all sounds lovely. And the picture is precious.
Comment by Mama D — February 11, 2007 @ 11:09 pm
Cute pic. And what will Sam be giving his sweetie for Valentine”s Day?
Comment by Jane — February 12, 2007 @ 12:05 pm
aw! his first kiss and you were there to witness. i’m glad you found a friend. one is better than none! i’m jealous, i tell you. my closest friend is almost 2 hours away and doesn’t have kids. it’s hard meeting people.
Comment by kate — February 12, 2007 @ 12:44 pm
That is just great that you found a friend with a kid sams age. That picture is just precious. I’m glad that your families can get together and have lots of fun!
Comment by Nikkie — February 12, 2007 @ 12:50 pm
That is awesome when you find friends like that. I’m happy for you! That picture is SO adorable!
Comment by Jenn — February 12, 2007 @ 1:10 pm
I go crazy without some good female friends, so I’m glad you’ve found one! It’s HARD to find new friends in a new city! Really hard! Look how cute Sam + girlfriend are - aw.
Comment by Rebecca — February 12, 2007 @ 1:33 pm
Two things.
1. Cutest picture ever.
2. So happy for you (and WAY jealous) that you found a great mommy friend.
Comment by Jamie — February 12, 2007 @ 2:20 pm
Perfect image.
Mike
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Comment by Mike — February 12, 2007 @ 3:33 pm
Aren’t mommy friends the best?!
That picture just made my day! Go Sam!
Comment by New Mama's nest — February 12, 2007 @ 10:30 pm
I LOVE THAT PICTURE.
Totally jazzed that Sam has a new BFF.
Comment by Poopydigs — February 13, 2007 @ 2:29 pm
Swear I left a comment on this already… hmmm…
Aren’t mommy friends the best?! and of course GO SAM!
Comment by New Mama's nest — February 13, 2007 @ 2:32 pm
So sweet!
And having “that one friend” is such a blessing! Glad you found one. Now you have to ask each other: Do you think you could be in-laws?
Comment by Alli — February 13, 2007 @ 3:28 pm
Awwww!! I am actually jealous as I don’t have a really really GOOD friend that I can hang with.
Comment by tracey — February 13, 2007 @ 6:59 pm
Wow! I think she slipped him some tongue.
Comment by Mrs. Chicky — February 15, 2007 @ 3:36 pm
So, so sweet! Awesome that you have a mom friend to spend time with. Have fun!
Comment by mamacita tina — February 15, 2007 @ 5:35 pm
Oh so cute. So, so cute!!! And serisouyl every time I see a pic of your little boy I have to look closely to see that he’s not my little boy! They have the same blond curls!
Comment by Lei — February 15, 2007 @ 11:06 pm
How completely adorable!
(I’m reading a new book titled “Yummy Mummy” and it is very funny, well-written) C
Comment by Cmommy — February 22, 2007 @ 2:34 pm
That is so great to have found another couple to hang with. Love the new girlfriend… they are so cute together
Comment by Gina — February 23, 2007 @ 1:42 am
That is fabulous- and I’m jealous. I’ve got the same thing, we’ve been here 7 months now, and I crave a friend. Just one. But, no playgroups or anything for me… between work & wrestling I hoep to find one. This is the first time in a LONG time, I wished I was a SAHM, then I woudl fit in at church where everyone but me is.
Comment by Mel — February 23, 2007 @ 8:46 am
LOVE THAT PIC! it’s moments like that, when captured, take you right back to a memory.
Love it!
Comment by Shawn C — February 25, 2007 @ 6:46 pm