Comments on: So, am I done? http://www.totalmomhaircut.com/2008/03/16/so-am-i-done.html Tons of feathery layers. Tue, 07 Oct 2008 07:10:10 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.3.3 By: Total Mom Haircut » Wherein I Link All Over My Own Blog http://www.totalmomhaircut.com/2008/03/16/so-am-i-done.html#comment-5490 Total Mom Haircut » Wherein I Link All Over My Own Blog Fri, 18 Apr 2008 13:18:38 +0000 http://www.totalmomhaircut.com/2008/03/16/so-am-i-done.html#comment-5490 [...] there though. Some of it may sound a little familiar to a few of you because it did start out as a blog post. But there are other cool essays, and it’s a free online [...] […] there though. Some of it may sound a little familiar to a few of you because it did start out as a blog post. But there are other cool essays, and it’s a free online […]

]]> By: Rebecca http://www.totalmomhaircut.com/2008/03/16/so-am-i-done.html#comment-5231 Rebecca Fri, 04 Apr 2008 20:34:24 +0000 http://www.totalmomhaircut.com/2008/03/16/so-am-i-done.html#comment-5231 O.k., I just found your blog. I love it. I'm going to "Bloglines" you right now. :) O.k., I just found your blog. I love it. I’m going to “Bloglines” you right now. :)

]]> By: Nicole http://www.totalmomhaircut.com/2008/03/16/so-am-i-done.html#comment-5207 Nicole Fri, 04 Apr 2008 11:55:27 +0000 http://www.totalmomhaircut.com/2008/03/16/so-am-i-done.html#comment-5207 I get that 'hands full' comment alot too...don't you love having a toddler and a baby both be 'unhappy' at the same time?!?! I get that ‘hands full’ comment alot too…don’t you love having a toddler and a baby both be ‘unhappy’ at the same time?!?!

]]> By: Allie http://www.totalmomhaircut.com/2008/03/16/so-am-i-done.html#comment-5083 Allie Sat, 29 Mar 2008 03:00:34 +0000 http://www.totalmomhaircut.com/2008/03/16/so-am-i-done.html#comment-5083 What an interesting post! If you had asked me that question about six months ago, I would have said no way. A part of me even now with my daughter being one and in that difficult stage, still yearns for another baby. Yet, there are days that I am perfectly content with my son and daughter and I dream about all of the adventures our family can go on within a couple of years. I think for many women, it is difficult for them to know if they are really done. If I had the choice, then I would definitely go for one more but unfortunately my husband is tapping out and is happy with our two children. Sigh ..... What an interesting post! If you had asked me that question about six months ago, I would have said no way. A part of me even now with my daughter being one and in that difficult stage, still yearns for another baby. Yet, there are days that I am perfectly content with my son and daughter and I dream about all of the adventures our family can go on within a couple of years.

I think for many women, it is difficult for them to know if they are really done. If I had the choice, then I would definitely go for one more but unfortunately my husband is tapping out and is happy with our two children. Sigh …..

]]> By: sari http://www.totalmomhaircut.com/2008/03/16/so-am-i-done.html#comment-4995 sari Tue, 25 Mar 2008 04:59:36 +0000 http://www.totalmomhaircut.com/2008/03/16/so-am-i-done.html#comment-4995 Having three boys I get a lot of comments. "OH! THREE BOYS!" and yes, the "Are you gonna try for a girl?" I always just smile and say "Yes, I'm SO happy I have three boys! I have four sisters so I no, I'm not trying at all for a girl, I'm happy just the way we are!" I'm glad the hormone levels at home will all at least be the same, ha ha! We gave away all of our baby stuff because my middle son was five, the I got pregnant. We really haven't had to buy that much this time, and Lynanne is right, stuff is so different now, I'm glad we're getting new. You really need much less than you think anyway. :-) Having three boys I get a lot of comments. “OH! THREE BOYS!” and yes, the “Are you gonna try for a girl?”

I always just smile and say “Yes, I’m SO happy I have three boys! I have four sisters so I no, I’m not trying at all for a girl, I’m happy just the way we are!”

I’m glad the hormone levels at home will all at least be the same, ha ha!

We gave away all of our baby stuff because my middle son was five, the I got pregnant. We really haven’t had to buy that much this time, and Lynanne is right, stuff is so different now, I’m glad we’re getting new. You really need much less than you think anyway.

:-)

]]> By: Alli http://www.totalmomhaircut.com/2008/03/16/so-am-i-done.html#comment-4983 Alli Tue, 25 Mar 2008 00:36:03 +0000 http://www.totalmomhaircut.com/2008/03/16/so-am-i-done.html#comment-4983 I get that ALOT too. Always followed by "You gonna try for that girl?" Or they say, "Are you done, or are you going to try for a girl?" Like the only reason we would try for another is to get a girl. *sigh* I'm on the fence about whether or not we're done now. All I know is that we are not ready for another right now. I think we will be eventually, but now's not the time. It's funny to think that when the older boys were the age the baby is now, I was already more than halfway through my next pregnancy. I say enjoy what you have now. At the very least, you'll know when (if) you are ready for another blessing of the baby variety. I get that ALOT too. Always followed by “You gonna try for that girl?” Or they say, “Are you done, or are you going to try for a girl?” Like the only reason we would try for another is to get a girl. *sigh*

I’m on the fence about whether or not we’re done now. All I know is that we are not ready for another right now. I think we will be eventually, but now’s not the time. It’s funny to think that when the older boys were the age the baby is now, I was already more than halfway through my next pregnancy.

I say enjoy what you have now. At the very least, you’ll know when (if) you are ready for another blessing of the baby variety.

]]> By: Mama D http://www.totalmomhaircut.com/2008/03/16/so-am-i-done.html#comment-4917 Mama D Thu, 20 Mar 2008 19:24:12 +0000 http://www.totalmomhaircut.com/2008/03/16/so-am-i-done.html#comment-4917 Someone just said that to me today!!! "Wow! She's so big, how old is she now? And when are you due? You're going to be busy!" No kidding. The thing that ticks me off the most is that a number of the people who say these kind of things were in the same boat at one time. Perhaps with children even closer together in age. Is it that they are so relieved to have gotten through it, and lived to tell, that they can't keep their comments to themselves. Or do they wish we would choose differently than they did? Who knows. As for me, I am done. I know it. In my bones. I just can't do this again. In fact, I feel a bit of apprehension about the difficulty of what lies ahead of me and keep telling myself I will make it through. Let's hope I'm right! Someone just said that to me today!!! “Wow! She’s so big, how old is she now? And when are you due? You’re going to be busy!”

No kidding. The thing that ticks me off the most is that a number of the people who say these kind of things were in the same boat at one time. Perhaps with children even closer together in age. Is it that they are so relieved to have gotten through it, and lived to tell, that they can’t keep their comments to themselves. Or do they wish we would choose differently than they did? Who knows.

As for me, I am done. I know it. In my bones. I just can’t do this again. In fact, I feel a bit of apprehension about the difficulty of what lies ahead of me and keep telling myself I will make it through. Let’s hope I’m right!

]]> By: Jennifer (Et Tu?) http://www.totalmomhaircut.com/2008/03/16/so-am-i-done.html#comment-4916 Jennifer (Et Tu?) Thu, 20 Mar 2008 17:29:58 +0000 http://www.totalmomhaircut.com/2008/03/16/so-am-i-done.html#comment-4916 I can totally relate! We have three ages three and under. When people ask me pointedly if I'm done I say "What business is that of yours?" and tell them how irritating I find that question to be. Oh, wait, no -- that's what I do in an alternate universe where I'm a confident, assertive person. In reality I just laugh politely and say "gee, I don't know" and then call my husband to vent about how rude people are. :) As for being done, I love the idea of just taking it one month at a time. My life has changed SO much in the past five years that it's just so hard to say what it will be like and what our family will feel like five years -- or 10 years or even one year -- from now. Anyway, thanks for your post! I can totally relate! We have three ages three and under. When people ask me pointedly if I’m done I say “What business is that of yours?” and tell them how irritating I find that question to be. Oh, wait, no — that’s what I do in an alternate universe where I’m a confident, assertive person. In reality I just laugh politely and say “gee, I don’t know” and then call my husband to vent about how rude people are. :)

As for being done, I love the idea of just taking it one month at a time. My life has changed SO much in the past five years that it’s just so hard to say what it will be like and what our family will feel like five years — or 10 years or even one year — from now.

Anyway, thanks for your post!

]]> By: Aimee http://www.totalmomhaircut.com/2008/03/16/so-am-i-done.html#comment-4909 Aimee Wed, 19 Mar 2008 15:11:38 +0000 http://www.totalmomhaircut.com/2008/03/16/so-am-i-done.html#comment-4909 When someone says to me, "looks like you have your hands full," I always reply with, "BETTER FULL THAN EMPTY!!" With a huge grin on my face and then walk away!:) When someone says to me, “looks like you have your hands full,” I always reply with, “BETTER FULL THAN EMPTY!!” With a huge grin on my face and then walk away!:)

]]> By: Jenn http://www.totalmomhaircut.com/2008/03/16/so-am-i-done.html#comment-4878 Jenn Tue, 18 Mar 2008 04:31:22 +0000 http://www.totalmomhaircut.com/2008/03/16/so-am-i-done.html#comment-4878 I don't have anything intelligent to say, as I am just having my second one now, but I think it's something many mothers struggle with. Lifestyle wise, cost wise it seems to make the most sense to stop at two. Once you go to three you need the bigger house and the bigger car. But sometimes I cannot imagine having more kids, meeting them.... Jenn I don’t have anything intelligent to say, as I am just having my second one now, but I think it’s something many mothers struggle with. Lifestyle wise, cost wise it seems to make the most sense to stop at two. Once you go to three you need the bigger house and the bigger car. But sometimes I cannot imagine having more kids, meeting them….

Jenn

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